Planning Ahead Isn’t a Death Sentence

Just like you can’t get pregnant just from talking about sex, you won’t die because you do end-of-life planning.

Whenever someone inquires about end-of-life planning, the conversation usually begins something like this: 

“Hi Crystal, I don’t need your services yet but ….”

My dear friends, end-of-life planning isn’t meant to be done at the end of your life!

Making arrangements for your final chapter is one of the most important and meaningful gifts you can give your loved ones. I speak from experience. My parents weren’t “in need” of death services at age 63 – or so they thought. They died 8 weeks apart, and I felt blindsided. 

Death can happen at any time, to anyone. There’s a 100% guarantee that you’re going to die. Can you imagine a new mom waiting until she’s in labor to prepare for her newborn’s arrival? Seems ridiculous, right? Yet it happens all the time around end-of-life.

The most valuable thing we have—especially during a dying process—is time. Oprah calls time “our most unrenewable resource.”  When you make your arrangements in advance, your loved ones won’t be left guessing how to honor you and the space you’re in.  This creates an opportunity for everyone to have a meaningful experience. You only have one death; wouldn’t it be ideal if your final chapter was full of cherished memories? This is part of the legacy you leave behind.

Here are a few simple things you can do today to begin the process of contemplating and planning your own meaningful end-of-life:

  1. Create a Death Intention—for you, your family, and the memories they’ll honor after you’re gone.
  2. Read this wonderful article, Rest Me in a Pine Box and Let the Fiddle Play
  3. Watch this TED Talk on 5 practices for end-of-life planning